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    PassionForDance

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    #119212   2008-05-13 11:49 GMT      

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    #119213   2008-05-13 11:59 GMT      
    in a way you are right...
    its what we called lonelyness, it make your heart softer and more lovely to the others..and we are ready to love and be loved

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    #119214   2008-05-13 12:16 GMT      
    No. Attachment and love go together. Detached, you can be kind, considerate and compassionate but not love. I think the questioner carries this thought from the saying " love is God and God is love". Love is an inclusive thing and you cannot be unattached.

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    #119215   2008-05-13 12:18 GMT      
    if I had ten children I would love them all equally, and be attached to them equally.

    so attaching to someone out of loneliness isn't love, but why would I want to love someone who didn't need me, or feel attached to me, or want to be attached to me,or want to spend time, or talk to me, it wouldn't feel like I was loved even if they were kind and considerate to me, their kindness feels like a slap in the face
    (answer above I agree with.)

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    #119216   2008-05-13 12:25 GMT      
    Not really!

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    #119217   2008-05-13 12:37 GMT      
    for me i think that would be not so.
    the more i become unattached i become with drawn, maybe even selfish.

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    #119218   2008-05-13 12:37 GMT      
    Yes.

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    #119219   2008-05-13 12:45 GMT      
    no. attached or not to that person...if its love, it doesnt matter

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    #119220   2008-05-13 12:49 GMT      
    No, I do not not believe that if we are more unattached you can truly Love more. We as Human Beings need closure, with the one you Love, or else there would be no Love between both of them.

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    #119221   2008-05-13 12:49 GMT      
    if this lack of attachment is freedom from constraint then yes -ungrasping love, desireless desire - it can be

    think of those amazing elderly who's love is so complete that like a symbiotic organism one cannot suvive the death of the other.

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    #119222   2008-05-13 12:54 GMT      
    no

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    #119223   2008-05-13 13:03 GMT      
    True love does need anything.

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    #119224   2008-05-13 13:14 GMT      
    Sometimes it depends. For me, I've truly always been unattached and I know that when I find love I will truly love. People who are always attached lose sight of what true love is, but that can also be argued. Some people who are always attached can know the difference between what true love is and isn't because of the experience.

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    #119225   2008-05-13 13:16 GMT      
    Well since i am married i feel attached but unattached in the same sentence..I feel for those around me just as much..Friends who are dying i feel much attached to their feelings even though i have a family and grands..You can truly love either way..

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    #119226   2008-05-13 13:20 GMT      
    For me, personally, the more detached I have become from my needs or wants, the likelihood of me ever being able to "truly love" erodes further. On the other hand, it is possible for others to find enlightment or appreciation for self (and eventually others) by simply detaching themselves from "earthly desires." Thus, there is no definitive connection between attachment and "true love." What is thought of as "love" is merely a lingering infatuation that one has difficulty understanding. Perhaps that infatution COULD manifest itself into "love" but not always.

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    #119227   2008-05-13 13:37 GMT      
    the one who has nothing to lose, has everything to gain (and give).

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    #119228   2008-05-13 13:41 GMT      
    Yes and No.
    Two persons can be attached to each others and it's fine , they can be truly in love , but when they are not that attached this doesn't mean they are not truly in love.
    I think there is a thin line between "attachment" and " possession" in love. Personally, I believe that a "true love" has to be a two sides coin. Love and attached on the one side and unattached on the other side. The "unattachement side is about giving the partner his/her space and conserving his/her individuality in a relationship. a couple is a double and at the same time two halves. They complete each other. Like a lute whose strings are separate but they play together the same melody. So the more unattached in a relationship in this sense the more you can truly love...

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    #119229   2008-05-13 14:20 GMT      
    love comes from freedom

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    #119230   2008-05-13 14:43 GMT      
    Rilke asked: But this is what young people are so often and so disastrously wrong in doing they (who by their very nature are impatient) fling themselves at each other when love takes hold of them, they scatter themselves, just as they are, in all their messiness, disorder, bewilderment. . . . : And what can happen then? What can life do with this heap of half-broken things that they call their communion and that they would like to call their happiness, if that were possible, and their future? And so each of them loses himself for the sake of the other person, and loses the other, and many others who still wanted to come. And loses the vast distances and possibilities, gives up the approaching and fleeing of gentle, prescient Things in exchange for an unfruitful confusion, out of which nothing more can come; nothing but a bit of disgust, disappointment, and poverty, and the escape into one of the many conventions that have been put up in great numbers like public shelters on this most dangerous road. No area of human experience is so extensively provided with conventions as this one is...

    This advance (at first very much against the will of the outdistanced men) will transform the love experience, which is now filled with error, will change it from the ground up, and reshape it into a relationship that is meant to be between one human being and another, no longer one that flows from man to woman. And this more human love (which will fulfill itself with infinite consideration and gentleness, and kindness and clarity in binding and releasing) will resemble what we are now preparing painfully and with great struggle: the love that consists in this: the two solitudes protect and border and greet each other.

    You must be detached from the one you love and from yourself.

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    #119231   2008-05-13 15:12 GMT      
    No. I believe that the more attracted one is the easier that individual is to abuse.

    We should all only spend quality time with individuals who are worthy of our affection. Then you may freely give it without reservation.

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    #119232   2008-05-13 15:20 GMT      
    I want another choice here

    Attached or unattached, it is still an objective relationship so long as there is something to love and someone to do it - however it is done. Remove the lover and the beloved and see what you get. Where does love go or come from then? That is love.

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    #119233   2008-05-13 15:29 GMT      
    The think it is the other way around! The more you truly love the more attached you become. Love involves a lot more then sex. When you truly love you really do become part of each other and when you lose that love and attachment then part of yourself has been lost also.

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    #119234   2008-05-13 16:23 GMT      
    Attached is too broad a word to use to get a valid answer to this question, you just turned this and your other question
    around, my answer is the same as the other question.

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    #119235   2008-05-13 17:03 GMT      
    yes cause you know how important attachments are so you give your all
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